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via PM News For You! — Becca Diaries
The typical Becca wakes up at about 5a.m every morning and goes back to bed between 12 and 1 a.m. Aside unforeseen activities at work, i make a list of events to keep my day organized – anyone close to me understands that i have to keep track of every single thing I do in a day by writing them out – first thing in the morning (my typical routine).
There was a time i created a time table but realized that my work is not as flexible, therefore, i resorted to writing out a to-do list everyday.
With this, i keep track of things i need to finish up, and at some point i created a checklist – “daily checklist and weekly checklist’. – With this, I make a daily /weekly review (based on the number of ticks and analysis) of my activities and accomplishments.
Although, I discovered that my schedule changes each time something significant comes up, i.e, change of work. But irrespective of what happens, i always follow a routine.
Anyways, i woke up at 5:30 a.m this morning.
So, on my way to work, I boarded a Tricycle (Keke napep/maruwa) as usual but what wasn’t usual, was the Tricyclist’s politeness even to the point of blasting some old lovely music which i danced to.
On arrival, i gave him #500 naira note, expecting #450 but also thought of giving out an extra #50 because he drove me all alone in the cold (there was no single passenger on our way). The Tricyclist gave me #300 instead, saying “I no get change o. Make we call am drop sef. Sebi na only you i carry“. I thought it was a joke until he made me understand that he has no other money on him, – long story short, i ended up paying #200 for the music and other services.
Finally, i get to fix my to-do list in-between breaks at work and before i go to bed each night. My day went well despite all that went down. My routine however, continues till bed time.
How was your day today?
I am still going through the pages of the book, “The 5 Love Languages”, by Gary Chapman and just after the second chapter, I have come across an interesting phenomenon, ‘Falling in Love’.
Gar mentions that when we are in love, we do not notice flaws, neither do we care when others point them out to us. Our partner is simply perfect. Lo and behold, it takes two years for a romantic obsession to go away and every flaw will become bare. Characters will get irritating and we begin to wonder how we got here.
The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth nor on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived.
Researchers such as psychiatrist M. Scott Peck and psychologist Dorothy Tennov, have concluded that the in-love experience should not be called “love” at all. Dr. Tennov coined the word ‘Limerance’ for the in-love experience in order to distinguish that experience from what she considers real love. Dr, peck differentiate the ‘In love experience from real love’ based on the followings
Falling in love is, therefore:
a genetically determined instinctual component of mating behavior. In other words, the temporary collapse of ego boundaries that constitutes falling in love is a stereotypical response of human beings to a configuration of internal sexual drives and external sexual stimuli, which serves to increase the probability of sexual pairing and bonding so as to enhance the survival of the species
In other words, choose a love that combines emotions and reason – something emotional and not obsessional. It should rather be a conscious act – rational & intentional
Folarin Falana, known as Falz, the singer of the famous, ‘This is Nigeria’ (a social commentary) which caused a lot of rancour and almost made a serious case in court. As election draws near, Falz has found time to release a musical single where he talked about greedy politicians and warned youths to be very careful this season. Yes! He is here to ‘Talk’.
The Independent National Electoral Commission, (INEC) has given an update through their website, on the upcoming general elections based on a voting procedure.
Donald Trump is bent on declaring a national emergency if Congress does not meet his demand for billions of dollars to put up a steel wall along the US-Mexico border. President Trump had changed his mind from concrete to a steel wall but negotiations with Democrats has broken down. It should be noted that if the shutdown continues into the weekend, it will become the longest government closure in US history. He however threatens to use his emergency powers to circumvent Congress if they can’t come to agreement.
A report by the Department of Petroleum Resources, DPR, showed that Nigeria’s oil reserves remain low at 37 billion barrels, despite efforts made by the government and others to achieve 40 billion barrel by 2020.
The 21 years old four-feet model has come out to say that her stature can never be a challenge to what she has chosen to be. Hence, she will never allow negativity to define her personality. Fatima Timbo is a British model who is currently building her confidence and giving others hope in the process.
Michael Cohen, President Donald Trump’s former lawyer has agreed to testify publicly before the panel on February 7. Cohen will be in Capitol Hill after he pleaded guilty and was sentenced in December to three years in prison on multiple charges, including two campaign finance crimes tied to illicit payments made to silence women during the presidential campaign — crimes that prosecutors say Trump directed Cohen to commit.
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Reading the first pages of a certain book, someone wanted to know why things change after marriage – he was inquiring from the author. He has been out of 3 different marriages in 16 years and wonders how the very sweet love story transcended into an irritating one that led to a divorce 3 separate times.
In tackling the above situation, the author said:
“The problem is that we have overlooked one fundamental truth: People speak different love languages”.
Of a truth, we all speak different love languages as outlined in this very influential book. The five (5) basic love languages include:
The essential point is that we all have a primary love language and in order to make it work with our partners, we should endeavor to learn a secondary love language (our partner’s).
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Happy New Year to you all. Welcome to 2019 all the way from the fruitful 2018. It’s yet another opportunity to make a difference and actualize all dreams left untapped. It is also a period to review the previous year’s achievements and create room for improvement. For this blog Everyday Lives, it will be a time to showcase what it stands for:
Please, stay tuned
This piece resonates with me…
Every Human needs some alone time, just as much as a community and companionship. We often get caught up with the world around us and cant find regular periods of solitude.
“Therefore, dear Sir, love your solitude and try to sing out with the pain it causes you. For those who are near you are far away… and this shows that the space around you is beginning to grow vast…. be happy about your growth, in which of course you can’t take anyone with you, and be gentle with those who stay behind; be confident and calm in front of them and don’t torment them with your doubts and don’t frighten them with your faith or joy, which they wouldn’t be able to comprehend. Seek out some simple and true feeling of what you have in common with them, which doesn’t necessarily have to alter when you yourself change…
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Many are aware of the quote vēnī vīdī vīcī; literally: I came, I saw, I conquered. The Latin phrase popularly attributed to Julius Caesar who, according to Appian, used the phrase in a letter to the Roman Senate around 47 BC.
However here is a Phrase that can transform your mood today.
So when life knocks you down, get back up with the knowledge that if you face the situation “HEAD ON” you will eventually become a CONQUEROR
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GO AHEAD, RISE ABOVE YOUR CHALLENGES!!!
VICTORY IS YOURS.
Bob Hall was a rancher. In 1936, in the midst of the Depression, he was suffering from a cancer that was eating the flesh on the side of his face. His ranch had dwindled to nearly nothing, and weeks after bankers took the last of his livestock, Hall died, leaving his family deeply in debt.
His sons pleaded with anybody they could find to make a loan and save the family ranch. No one would do it. Finally, in desperation, they went to their neighbor, Buzz Newton, who was known for his miserliness, and asked him to co-sign a loan. “I always thought so much of your dad; he was the most generous man I have known,” Newton answered. “Yes, I’ll co-sign the note.”
Bob Hall’s grandson, also named Robert Hall, drew out the lesson in his book “This Land of Strangers,” noting: “The truth is, relationships are the most valuable and value-creating resource of any society. They are our lifelines to survive, grow and thrive.”
There’s a mountain of evidence suggesting that the quality of our relationships has been in steady decline for decades. In the 1980s, 20 percent of Americans said they were often lonely. Now it’s 40 percent. Suicide rates are now at a 30-year high. Depression rates have increased tenfold since 1960, which is not only a result of greater reporting.
Most children born to mothers under 30 are born outside of marriage. There’s been a steady 30-year decline in Americans’ satisfaction with the peer-to-peer relationships at work.
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